The Power of Caring
I know this has to be the corniest title - but read on and you'll see why I chose it. So consider yourself waking up in the morning and looking at your day with your toddler (stay-home-moms) - you see your basic food-tasks, your hopes for quiet time, your baby's needs and the house-tasks. So as you fill up your morning green smoothie there are two ways your inner centering happens -
(a) "Good God! How do I get done with all my stuff so I catch this movie I want?
or
(b) I really dont care about getting my entire fricking list done ... as long as I can hug this kiddo as much as I can.
Now when Im (a), I dont recall my son's funny faces, I find myself brushing past him in the hallway and tautly waiting for his next misbehavior. And when Im (b), I find Im okay sitting out a 30-min breakfast as he giggles at each funny page in his book. And guess what - all my desired virtues of patience, love, appreciation, giving and breathing - flow naturally when Im (b). And lo! The son laughs, blooms and giggles under my very nose. You could argue that is a better aim than that movie I apparently wanted to watch!
I really think this speaks to all those mothers who feel the need to have a "Self" aim and/or some worldly-desires to be a more-part of the human race. Im going to say smiling and breathing are the better ways to be a part of the human race - and you can be that without tearing your hair out and/or arguing with your kids all day long. And no, this doesn't speak to working moms. I will write to you when I am one. haha.
I know this has to be the corniest title - but read on and you'll see why I chose it. So consider yourself waking up in the morning and looking at your day with your toddler (stay-home-moms) - you see your basic food-tasks, your hopes for quiet time, your baby's needs and the house-tasks. So as you fill up your morning green smoothie there are two ways your inner centering happens -
(a) "Good God! How do I get done with all my stuff so I catch this movie I want?
or
(b) I really dont care about getting my entire fricking list done ... as long as I can hug this kiddo as much as I can.
Now when Im (a), I dont recall my son's funny faces, I find myself brushing past him in the hallway and tautly waiting for his next misbehavior. And when Im (b), I find Im okay sitting out a 30-min breakfast as he giggles at each funny page in his book. And guess what - all my desired virtues of patience, love, appreciation, giving and breathing - flow naturally when Im (b). And lo! The son laughs, blooms and giggles under my very nose. You could argue that is a better aim than that movie I apparently wanted to watch!
I really think this speaks to all those mothers who feel the need to have a "Self" aim and/or some worldly-desires to be a more-part of the human race. Im going to say smiling and breathing are the better ways to be a part of the human race - and you can be that without tearing your hair out and/or arguing with your kids all day long. And no, this doesn't speak to working moms. I will write to you when I am one. haha.
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